Being Authentic and knowing when to not give a F**k

We often fear being authentic because it means being vulnerable - But it also means we have courage!

We are told: “To thine own self be true!” But, what does that really mean to most of us - It means opening ourselves up, being honest and fearless.

 I’ve always been a private person. I don’t like to talk about myself or be the center of attention because it makes me super duper uncomfortable. So, in the past I have traded my authentic self for the security of being liked by my family and friends because of my fear of being judged.  Challenging myself to remain authentic has required real vulnerability on my part, because I spend so much time in my own head thinking things through and trying to figure out what other people are thinking and how I am feeling about things. Parts of me constantly ask, "what if I show my true colors, maybe people won’t like the real me?"

So living an authentic life, or at least really trying to, is probably one of the most challenging things that I have done.  I paired my mission toward authenticity with an attitude of gratitude.  Practicing gratitude has been one of the most reliable methods for increasing contentment and joy in my life.  I know every day won’t be perfect, but focusing on all the things I am grateful for both  in my personal and business life washes away any feelings negativity and promotes contentment within me.  I found that being grateful for what I have accomplished in the last day/week/month/year instead of comparing myself to others, has given me the courage to allow myself to be vulnerable hence leaning towards authenticity. Yay!

I think that it is important for all of us to realize just how much of our lives are driven by bullshit, which is the lack of authenticity!  Once we learn how to be comfortable with our own quirks, we then begin to realize that we all have them and this is when our mindset can change!

In the past few months I have found that my self confidence has been propelled as I have taken the next steps in reinventing myself. I am slowly finding that I am not so afraid of what others think of me. I am following my creative passion, I am running my own business and I am celebrating my triumphs however small.  So now when I look at my life, it feels predominately good, and a whole lot lighter and brighter than before.  

Bottom line - There really is no such thing as not giving a f**k. The answer is ... Don't be afraid!  Embrace your true authentic self.

Every day is a gift; every breath is a gift. What we do with them is a choice.


“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.” “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” Brene' Brown


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